I recently took a photography class where some people discussed how their fears (ex. fear of success, creativity, failure) kept them from being the best they could be at whatever they wanted to do. A member of the group mentioned a book called, “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert, the same author of “Eat, Pray, Love.” I decided to pick it up and see what all the hype was about.
The books premise is simple: Live a creative life beyond fear.
Get out there and live a FULLFILLING life. Push yourself to follow through on something that you want to try but have been afraid to do. See where it takes you. I thought I was never afraid to try anything. But, in actuality, I was. I always approached everything with the thought, “you’ll do the best you can. It’ll be ok that you’re not that good at it.” I was SO used to that negative inner voice, I didn’t even realize the problem. How could I ever really conquer and/or enjoy anything if I went in with that sort of attitude? That voice actually did talk me out of trying things because it made everything new and unpredictable seem impossible.
What a difference it makes when you change the voice in your head. Now, I try anything without judgement. I do things without the fear of feeling bad or failing. I have found that most of the time, the exact opposite happens. I see that I’m capable of much more than I think. I am experiencing life and in the process, enhancing my self-esteem.
Gilbert writes how she was speaking to a woman who had tattooed her body. Gilbert asks her how she could allow her body to be marked up like that. She responded, “My tattoos are permanent. It’s my body that’s temporary. We’re only here on earth for a short while, so I decided a long time ago that I wanted to decorate myself as playfully as I can.” We should all live the most decorated temporary life we can. Not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, intellectually.
What are you holding yourself back from doing? How can we get you to think differently to get out there and try something different? Something that actually might make you feel really good?
I would love to see you all change the voice when being photographed. Moms never want to be in the photo. They never think they look good enough. You know that negative voice! I know what you’re saying because I’ve said the same thing. Mine always told me I wasn’t thin enough, my hair didn’t look good enough, etc. Then, I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I IGNORED that voice. I did a boudoir shoot with Jen Rozenbaum in New York. It was awesome! I was nervous as hell! (A later blog to come about this experience.) But, the point is, I ended up LOVING it. She is an amazing photographer, but more than that, I felt beautiful and comfortable in front of her camera. I loved the results and when I saw the photos, I noticed that the inner voice was once again wrong. Sure, my curls are crazy, but I embraced them. They’re who I am. I went out of my comfort zone and you know what, I felt great!
I want this for all of us! Don’t worry about screwing up. If you have a desire, do it. You might be surprised how it turns out. If you like to write, do it. Garden, do it. Paint, do it. Problem- solve, do it. Don’t let that voice inside of you stop you from giving it your all once you decide to try it. If you love it enough, try it!
See where it takes you. Your self-esteem will thank you for it!